Overcoming Victimization


Standing Up For Ourselves

If we do not learn to stand up for ourselves, old patterns of victimization will continue to plague us and we run the risk of being repeatedly mistreated, used, and shamed. If the chronic recurrence of our patterns of victimization occurs, they will siphon off our power and cause further distortions in our psyche. Whatever imbalances we have will become more severe, and the unconscious beliefs that govern much of our experience will become more oppressive. Our sense of victimization will increase.

If we can find and face our repressed emotion and the events that caused them it makes it much easier to stand up for ourselves and release our patterns of victimization. When we do the right things in the right sequence, taking the next step is always much easier because we are building upon an established structure of accomplishment. Standing up for ourselves is very different when we have freed ourselves from our victimization complex than it is when the victim mentality still controls us. In the first case, we have eliminated our toxicity, regained our power, and become whole. In the second case, we are still toxic and powerless, and the our pattern of victimization will be as self-destructive as ever. Patterns of victimization are not easy to overcome. But with discipline and consistent effort they can be cleared and overcome. To heal your patterns of victimization you must find them, face them, feel them and forgive yourself and all others in involved in their creation.

Sean’s Amazing Story

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Sean’s Hidden Slave Past

Several years ago when my office was in Austin, Texas, I had a client named Sean whom I only saw once. Sean came because his girlfriend had paid for his session in advance and he hated to waste money. Otherwise, he would never have come. He was quite clear on that point.
When Sean’s session began, I placed one hand under the base of his spine and my other hand under the base of his skull. As the energy coming through my hands flooded Sean’s central nervous system, his eyes opened wide, and he stared at a fixed point on the ceiling. After a long moment of intense concentration, he closed his eyes. He sighed, his face turned ashen gray, and he began to shake his head slowly from side to side. After a few moments, he began shaking all over. Several more minutes passed, and he began to sob. He sobbed for a long time, his sobs becoming deeper and more anguished as he became immersed in his repressed and unconscious toxicity. Finally the sobbing stopped, and Sean’s body began to vibrate from the top of his head right down to the soles of his feet. He vibrated intensely for several minutes then suddenly became ice cold.

It was the middle of summer, but I had to put two heavy blankets over him. The blankets did little good. The cold was coming out of him, ancient, dead energies that had been frozen in his soul a long time ago. He needed to “thaw out” before those old energies would be cleared completely from his system. The freezing and the shaking continued. After a while longer, he came back to normal consciousness and opened his eyes. He was gray, exhausted, and still quite cold. I gave him more time to get his bearings and then asked him what he had experienced.
He said that when he opened his eyes shortly after the session began, he saw a stream of white light flowing from his forehead, culminating in a white cross on the ceiling. The cross was there for only a moment. When it disappeared, he closed his eyes again. No sooner had he closed his eyes than he found himself in another lifetime that was quite foreign to him and to which he could not relate.

Sean had seen himself as a slave in ancient Egypt, one of thousands pulling stones slowly across the desert. He was in a long line of slaves pulling a thick rope attached to a large stone. There were many overseers keeping the slaves organized and working at full capacity. If a slave appeared to weaken or give less than his full effort, an overseer would pull him out of the line and whip him, often quite severely. Many slaves were whipped to death.

As Sean watched the scenes unfolding in his mind’s eye, an angry overseer pulled a woman out of her place in the line of slaves just ahead of him. He whipped her until her blood stained the sand around her feet. She collapsed and soon died. Sean distinctly remembered showing no emotion at the time of her death. He knew that if he were to show emotion, he would bring the overseer down on him, and he would suffer a similar fate. So he bottled whatever emotion he felt at the death of this woman and continued to pull the rock along the sand with the other slaves in his contingent as if nothing had happened.

Now that he had released the emotion frozen in his soul more than twenty-five hundred years ago, he knew without a doubt that the dead woman had been his wife. The fact that his grief was more than two thousand years late was not important now. The only thing that mattered was that he was finally able to feel his ancient wounding and free himself from it’s dominance in his life.

Sean’s Unconscious Governing Beliefs

The legacy of that ancient experience had been a heavy karmic anchor in Sean’s subconscious and had chained him to failure and obscurity in his present life. That karmic anchor contained two unconscious beliefs that controlled his life. The first unconscious belief was the notion that if you loved someone they would die, as his wife had died in ancient Egypt. The second unconscious belief was the notion that it was dangerous to be seen by those in power in the light of day. If you stayed out of sight you would avoid punishment and survive. In alignment with his unconscious governing beliefs, yet without any conscious knowledge of those beliefs, Sean found employment as a bartender, working in the shadows of a darkened bar, and indulged in a series of one-night stands that were meaningless, devoid of love, and went nowhere. In terms of his unconscious governing beliefs, Sean was successful. He wasn’t seen and he stayed alive. He didn’t love anyone, and no one died. Of course, his success at staying alive and having no emotional connection with anyone held no conscious satisfaction for him so he took recreational drugs daily to mask his pain. While he had no conscious awareness about his predicament, he was the prisoner of unconscious governing beliefs more than two millennia old.

Within a few months of releasing the trauma and grief of that lifetime, Sean’s life totally changed. He was freed from living under the spell of his unconscious governing beliefs. He got a sales job with a prestigious high-tech company, gave up drugs and meaningless sex, and be- came engaged to a wonderful girl he cared for deeply. By clearing one ancient lifetime from his system about which he had had absolutely no awareness, Sean was able to elevate his life in a very fast, yet natural way and gain his freedom from the past.

The only irony was that the girl he fell in love with and was engaged to was not the girl who had payed for his session.

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The Truth About Dying

Life Beyond the Physical Plane

Science tells us that nature abhors a vacuum. When we die, we do not turn to dust and bleached bones in the ground. Dust and bones are merely the remains of the body. Our body is the vehicle that houses and transports our soul while we are here on earth. While the remains of the body are ours, those remains are not who we are. This is a crucial distinction.

At death, the electromagnetic energy field that contains the spirit/soul/mind is no longer tethered to the physical plane by the physical body. When we die, the invisible silver cord linking the soul to the body is broken, and the soul returns to its home on the astral plane. Where we go in the astral worlds when we leave the body at death depends on how much or how little spiritual light we built into our system while we were here.

In this world, the soul is hidden and clothed in flesh. In the higher worlds, the soul stands revealed in its own light. That light is the real body of the soul. The brighter the light, the more powerful and evolved the soul has become.

The Story of Paula and Ted

My friend Paula once told me the story of her husband Ted’s death. Ted had been in declining health for a long time, and one day he had a heart attack. Paula called 911. The medics arrived quickly and were able to revive him. Paula, of course, was greatly relieved. Ted, however, was not. After he recovered, he scolded Paula.
“Listen,” he said in the no nonsense manner that was his trademark, “the next time that happens don’t try to bring me back.”
“Why Ted?” Paula asked him, a hint of panic in her voice.

“Paula, I was out of my body, experiencing more peace than I ever knew existed. I was in a very bright place. It was so light and so beautiful, better than anything I ever experienced here, I’ll tell you that. I’m not afraid to die now. I love you very much, Paula, and I don’t want to leave you behind, but my time is coming soon. I know it, and you know it. It won’t be much longer. That’s just the way it is. You promise to let me go next time, Paula? No more calls to 911?”

“Okay Ted,” Paula told him reluctantly. “I promise.”

A few months later Ted had another heart attack. This time Paula stilled her panic and remembered her promise. Instead of reaching for the phone, she reached for Ted’s hand and held him as he died.

“Alan,” she told me years later when she could talk about losing Ted without emotion, “when Ted died, I could see his spirit rise out of him and go up through the ceiling.”

“What did it look like?” I asked her.

“It was a long strand of silvery white light,” she replied without hesitation. “And that’s not all. When he left his body there was a feeling of deep peace in the room. Knowing that he was at peace made his death a lot easier for me to bear. It also helped me let go of my own fears about dying.”

Life is hard and unrelenting, and will always challenge us to grow. As Ted was fond of saying, “That’s just the way it is.”

The Negative Ego

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We Are Not Our Shame

The strategy of the negative ego is to keep us occupied in vain pursuits that feed it but do not feed us. If it can keep us focused on our greed and desire, the negative ego is assured of maintaining its power. To defeat the negative ego at its game, we must realize that we are not our shame. The territory of toxic emotion that the negative ego tries to hide from the world is not who we are. It is what prevents us from being who we are. To identify ourselves with our shame is to keep ourselves from our freedom. It is the error of identification that the negative ego wants us to make. It is the mistake that drives us to utilize our desire nature to flee from facing whatever false self we have erected and have come to believe that we are.

The whole rationale behind the power of desire is that if we succeed in fleeing from the pain of our shame, we can hide ourselves in material pleasure. The problem with that rationale is that pleasure always ends. Sooner or later, our pain will return and overwhelm us. As long as shame exists, it can never be entirely silenced.The strategies of the negative ego have a short shelf life.

The Adversaries of the Soul

What we must eventually realize is that what we fail to confront is much more dangerous to us than that what we choose to face. What we shrink from facing shrinks us. While we can actualize our desires, our desires cannot actualize us. Our soul contains our identity, our path, and our purpose. The negative ego only contains our unhealed wounds. The negative ego and our desire nature are the adversaries of our higher connection.

When we finally realize that the three forces of alienation- fear, greed and desire – are a dead end and lead nowhere, we are finally ready to enter the Elimination Zone and begin the path of personal evolution. What we need to keep in mind as we enter the Elimination Zone is that when we stand up to our fear, our fear will stand down. We regain our power when we confront the inner darkness and the negative ego that would otherwise diminish us.

Martial Law: The Next Step

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The March to Martial Law

The march to martial law continues. According To Mike Adams of the Department of Homeland Security has awarded a contract for 450 million rounds of .40mm hollow point ammo to ATK a munitions manufacturer. Since the DHS is strictly a domestic operation that means those rounds are intended to be used in this country on American citizens. There are approximately 300 million American citizens. Do your math. It means there are 1.5 rounds of .40mm hollow point ammo reserved for each of us. A truly scary thought and a martial law nightmare.

Obama’s Role

Let’s put this latest move by the Obama administration in the context of other legislation enacted into law in the last five months. Brace yourself. It gets even more disturbing. First came the NDAA that designated America a battlefield and each and everyone of us an enemy combatant who could be detained indefinitely without recourse to an attorney or a trial. Then came Federal Aviation Re-authorization Act that will put 30,000 drones in the skies above America by 2020. In March, Obama signed an executive order that gives him the right to declare martial law in peacetime and take control of all farms, water supplies and other important infrastructure. Now the DHS is buying 450 million rounds of .40mm hollow point ammo. To this lovely list, we must add the two thousand plus detention camps that Reagan authorized and are operational. This certainly looks like the infrastructure for martial law is being put together step by step and very quickly.

It seems obvious when you connect the dots. The Powers That Be are planning something. The question is what and when?

Ten Steps to Establishing a Dictatorship

In Adam’s article he lists the ten steps to establishing a dictatorship that Naomi Wolfe describes in her documentary, The End of America. I have copied them here from Adams article for your benefit. They are :

1. Create an internal/external threat that terrorizes the populace. This has already been accomplished with Oklahoma City (false flag) and 9/11 (another false flag). Get the film “A Noble Lie” to learn the truth about Oklahoma City.

2. Create secret prisons, with torture. Obama did this nicely with the NDAA (as well as keeping GITMO open even after promising he would close it).

3. Create a paramilitary force. This is the TSA.

4. Single out ordinary citizens as ‘troublesome persons.’ This has been accomplished by Janet Napolitano’s “if you see something, say something” propaganda campaign.

5. Establish surveillance of citizens’ groups and ordinary citizens deemed ‘troublesome.’ This is already well under way through surveillance of emails, phone calls, vehicle movements and more.

6. Detain and release citizens without formally charging them with any crime. This has been “legalized” under Obama’s NDAA. (

7. Target key individuals who are well known, popular figures. This has already begun and will likely accelerate. Who do you think killed Andrew Breitbart? Congressman Bono?

8. Restrict the press. Already done. The U.S. government, in fact, essentially runs the mainstream media today. White House announcements are simply printed as “fact” with zero journalism and zero fact checking taking place.

9. Redefine dissent as treason. This is already happening with figures like Ted Nugent who was recently “visited” by the Secret Service after his anti-Obama rant. All throughout government speeches today, the criminals at the very top proclaim that anyone who questions government is “anti-American” and might be involved in domestic terrorism. The FBI even warns that people who “stockpile food” might be terrorists! (Even though the government itself stockpiles massive quantities of food, guns, ammunition, communications gear, medical supplies and more…)

10. Subvert the rule of law. Already done. Law has been complete abandoned by the ATF, DEA, FDA, USDA and every other federal agency you can think of. The Attorney General Eric Holder actively plots ways to destroy the Bill of Rights, and the government stages false flag terror attacks to undermine constitutional protections.

See this important speech from Wolf at:

You can read Mike Adams article at:

What are your thoughts? Where do you think we are headed? Please comment.




The Higher Power

Seeking a Higher PowerAspiration and the Higher Power

Our aspiration to grow is the key to bringing down the higher power that will accelerate our evolution and help us discover who we really are. Aspiration is a magnetic power and a potent force that used correctly will increase our inner light and access to the higher power. When our aspiration for the truth is sincere, it attracts to us what we need to grow. We can’t grow unless we are nurtured by the spiritual energy of a higher power. When a sincere and loving call goes up, the higher power to heal one’s inner wounds and restore peace in the world comes flowing back down. In the spiritual world, like attracts like. Christ instructed his followers how to use universal law. “Knock and it shall be opened,” he exhorted. “Ask and ye shall receive.” When we turn to God with a pure heart and a clear mind, God turns to us. That is the power of aspiration. It connects us to the higher power.

The gulf of Confusion

Unfortunately, the reverse is also true. Until we embrace our paradoxes and do the therapeutic inner work necessary to resolve our personal inconsistencies, our consciousness will retain its dark and toxic secrets, and the collective consciousness will remain permeated with lethal influences. The gulf of sorrow and confusion that consumes so much of the energy and consciousness in the world will remain intact. If we do not aspire upwards toward the higher power, God cannot intervene in our affairs. If we do not choose to grow, God will leave us to our fate. We are the levers of change. We either reach for our destiny, call down the higher power and rise in the light, or we contract in the darkness of our anguish and fall to the fate we have created collectively.
We are the only ones who can bring down the forces from above to change the world. The ability to be a conduit of the higher power is a particularly human gift and a profound responsibility. If we don’t take on this high work, who will? This is our planet; its well-being is in our hands. These are our lives; our futures and those of our children are at stake. The time to change the way things are is now, not later.

Boundaries and Abusive Behavior

Psychological boundaries serve two primary functions. They protect us from harm and help define who we are. A boundary may be a conscious principle such as “abuse me and you lose me” or a deep emotional knowing that we are not consciously aware of until it is activated by a real time event. In either case the violation of our well-being incites us to act in our self-interest. Enforcing our boundaries has a two fold effect. It makes us stronger and it makes our boundary system stronger as well. Strength leads to self-confidence and greater clarity about who we really are. Strong boundaries enhance our sense of self.

Never Tolerate Abuse

There is never a valid reason for tolerating abuse. If you allow yourself to be abused you are strengthening the bad tendencies of the abuser while weakening your own sense of self. When you allow the abuser to take your power you inflate his sense of control over you. This creates a very real psychic dynamic in which the abusive person has all the power and you have none. When someone steals your power you will be full of fear, rage, and resentment. These emotions are a dangerous trap. As you long as you harbor them the abusive person has the upper hand and you are stuck in harm’s way. Then, if you should choose to stand and fight it is too late. When you have internalized what your abuser wants you to feel engaging him is like giving him a gift: the opportunity to abuse and wound you further and steal what energy you have left. This uplifts the abusive person and destroys you.

Strategies for Dealing With Abuse

The best strategy to deal with an abusive person is not to internalize the abuse, take it personally, and let the abuser steal your energy but to walk away at the first sign of abusive behavior. Restraint and self discipline keep the abusive energy your attacker wants to dump on you inside him. It is better that it eats him up than it weakens you. After all, it’s his energy not yours. Don’t allow his problem to become your nightmare. You are not responsible for the way he feels or the circumstances of his life even though he may try to make you responsible for the weight of his situation. Don’t let the abusive person use guilt to
manipulate you.

However, if you have been involved in a painful transaction with an abusive person and experienced the fear, rage, and resentment that accompany a negative encounter it is important to clear those emotions from your system. Internalized emotion does not go away on its own. The sting may lessen; the memory may fade; but that energy has been stored in your subconscious as part of a permanent culture of weakness. Future events will trigger those emotions and they will create havoc in your psyche and weaken you further.

Changing Yourself

An important part of building a strong boundary system is clearing the toxic emotions from the past that will weaken you when activated. You can’t change an abusive person but you can change yourself. When you rid yourself of stored toxic emotion from the past you will be far less vulnerable to taking the abusive person’s attacks personally and internalizing their shaming emotions.

Do not forget that internalizing shame gives the abuser the upper hand. If there is no hidden shame inside you the abuser’s attacks will bounce off you and be deflected back at him. Then, instead of successfully passing his shame on to you his toxicity will weaken him.

Never feel that you are big enough to take on the abuse; or that you deserve it; or that you are being helpful and spiritual by doing so. The truth is you are neither being helpful nor spiritual. You are being foolish and untrue to yourself. The whole point of having boundaries is to be true to yourself.

To Be Eternally Present

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Body and Soul

There is an ancient Taoist aphorism that concerns the relationship of death and infinity. “To die but not to perish,” said Lao Tsu, “is to be eternally present.” How can that be, we ask ourselves, because to die is to perish. What seems irrational at first glance however, becomes plausible when we consider that we are a soul as well as a body. The soul is the inner person, the body the outer person. The body dies, the soul does not. The inner person is eternal. The body is the vehicle that anchors the soul in the material world and allows it to have the experiences necessary for its growth.

Shifts in Consciousness

The statement “To die but not to perish…” refers to the important shifts in consciousness that occur emotionally and mentally, in feeling and thought, that allow the outer person to become more  to the inner person. When the outer person becomes one with the inner person that individual is eternally present, or enlightened.

The Individuation Process

The individuation process that leads to Divine union proceeds through a series of emotional and psychic deaths in which we are called on to let go of outmoded ideas and beliefs that are no longer relevant to our growth; attachments to people and relationships that are toxic to us and inhibit our development; and notions about our own identity that are too limiting for our current level of consciousness.

Psychic Death

Psychic death refers to the idea of cracking open the many energetic shells blocking the formation of a conscious connection between the inner and outer person. These shells define the outer boundaries of our current sense of identity. They are created by chronic negative emotions and limiting or inappropriate beliefs about ourself. When they finally crack open we are temporarily overwhelmed by a flood of darkness that overwhelms our mind. When we experience that flood of darkness it feels like we are drowning. The experience of that darkness, however, is simply the release of old unconscious toxicity we have not been aware of. It represents a psychic death that clears dead or toxic energy from our system and opens our external self to more light from our soul.

Cracking Shells

Each shell that breaks, every psychic death we experience brings the outer and inner aspects of ourselves closer together. Once we have gone through enough psychic deaths and cracked open enough shells the light of our soul finally begins to operate freely in our life. Every issue that needs completion begins to move toward resolution on its own. Unexpected opportunities knock on our door. Unconditional love flows through us and touches the lives of people we have never met and may not know exist. That love continues to integrate us and increase our power. When the two aspects of our selves at last become one, we are eternally present.

Dying to Our Limitations

Spirituality then, is not about being weak, passive or resigned to one’s fate. It is about letting go and dying to our limitations so we may increase our power and awareness. It is about reaching for our destiny. It is about being fulfilled and happy. It is why we are here. It is the purpose of life.

Putting First Things First

The tragedy of life is that so many people put it last, if they think of it at all. If we were all to put true spirituality first we would find inner peace and have a peaceful world. The result of not pursuing our spiritual development collectively is that we live in increasingly dangerous times. As the future and its unknown dangers move rapidly toward us it is imperative that we develop our inner center in two significant ways. First, by becoming emotionally stable. Second, by developing a soul connection so we will be guided by our intuition to safety and success.

Energetic Healing

Energetic healing is one of the most powerful ways to achieve these two goals. It clears emotional toxicity from your system; it cracks energetic shells and opens you to your soul; it can resolve frustrating physical conditions; it clears past karma; it makes your highs higher and your lows higher; it accelerates your growth; it removes impediments to success; and it enables you to be a channel of love. If you are interested in elevating your life you might find the testimonials on the Consultations page on this site very helpful.